Please, Please, Please, listen to what everyone advises, back off, let them be, they come to you!!!
I have moved on from my wife totally, don't talk to her, other than the kids, and I only send a text, I have been polite, happy, which I am, and generally a better person.
She calls me everyday, or sends a text!, she never contacted me when she first went!
She called me regarding Xmas presents for the kids the other day, and spent about an hour talking to me, she didn't sound too happy when I ended it and said I had to go!!
She keeps asking about me selling the house, not to rush into anything, give it a few months?, why if she wants out of the marriage, why wait!, I think she is having doubts?
The kids are great, we have a great time together, and I think she feels she is missing out, and you know what?, she is!!
She asked me about how I feel, told her I'm great, I exercise, I laugh, I don't drink, I'm never down, I sleep well, I feel great!!!, I said I wasn't sure if it was the meds I now take, or if it's because I don't feel married?, this is true, this is what I have been thinking, yes I miss my family, I dearly love my wife, but I feel like a different person, is this beacuse I'm not with her, and I can be myself again?
I see the kids everyday, I'm their dad, and best friend, I love them more than life, but they are happy and we have a great time together, so it's not them as they are still in my life everyday, there are only a few things different, no wife, no drink, and my medication.
Was my wife and unhappiness causing me to drink? Or was it because I had no medication before this time?
I cannot say honestly what the reason is, other than I'm fine!
If she asked me tomorrow to get back together, I could not say yes straight away, that is a massive statement from somebody who felt their life was over when she left!, but that is how I feel.
I have spent time with somebody else, she is aware of my situation, but we just talk, and enjoy each others company?
I feel attractive again, I feel good about myself, this is where we all need to be when this crap happens, we need to feel good about US!, not what other people want, that is the answer to all our problems!
I don't know what the future holds, what I do know is I am not going back to the person I was!!!
With her or without her, it's about me, if she wants to come alomg for the ride fine, if not fine, but that is my desicion, based on what I want and what makes me happy!!
Keep going guys, you can all get here, it's great when you do!!!
