John, you've come to one of the best places in the world for help with your M and most of all.....help for yourself. Don't get discouraged if it takes a few days for various members to catch up on your thread and post to you. It's important that you keep us posted b/c you will draw strength from this board by reaching out and getting a support group behind you. There are no better folks to do that than right here.
Don't know if you like to read books, but there's one that's a must, and that is Michele's Divorce Remedy.
I admire you for wanting to fight for your M. Sometimes we are in so much pain that we don't realize that fighting "for" the M does not mean to with "in" the M. You are hurting your own cause.....and I think you know it,but you don't have the plan book to teach other "how-tos" for this situation. Divorce Rememdy does that.
Right now you are reacting and making bad decisions from an extemely emotional place. Understandable.....but it does not work. You must calm yourself before the next step, okay?
Forrest Gump.....oh, he's good. And....he will give your stitch some thought and then come back and share that. Wereas, I just jump right in and shoot from the hip. When I first came on board, I was the WAS and I was fogged out of my mind that I could not get one thing Forrest would tell me. I would cuss & discuss over his posts to me (lol), but he was giving good advise...it was me that was reacting from stressed out emotions. When I read what he says now...it makes perfect sense, (usually).
So you have much to do, friend, but my M was saved mostly from what I got right here. Stick with us aNd you could be a success story!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
