So much happening but nothing much as well. I have no working laptop and visiting on my phone so not updating much. Hope that changes today. Any who a real brief update. I have had a new shower head installed. Grass mowed. Weeds poisoned. He swept inside the house!! He is repairing our driveway.
He has also been reconnecting with friends and family slowly but surely contacting them more.
He has been doing more with our animals. Up until a month ago I was buying everything and feeding them but now when he's here he is caring for them and buying things for them.
He is still with ow so he is still in replay.
He is now looking after the girls here 2 nights a week and soon it will be 3 nights. He told me he would stay every night if I needed him to.
We have a had a few R talks instigated by him. He actually thanked me for being so good to him while he is going through this sh1t. I nearly fell over. We chatted about communication and heaps of other things too. After these talks he withdraws from me for a while, trying to pick fights and the like. I try to avoid it not rising to the bait walking away.
Just recently he started paying another bill of the house saying he doesnt want everything going to wrack and ruin this is home. He also has been talking in future terms and altho no home coming date those future plans include me in them.
Still I am happy to see him happier and that is what I really want him happy and healthy no matter how 'we' work out.
He is having Xmas here and also we are going to his family's house as well. So lots of things but nothing as well. Meanwhile I am planning to take my girls camping through these holidays and do some fun things. I don't have much money so am limited whereas ow spends LOTS on them. (we discussed that too) But I try to make memories with the girls and find free things to do.
So I GAL and try to live as if but I still am not as detached as I would like but I am getting there. In some ways it feels as if he is trying to sneak home by saying he'll look after the girls while I work and I can work more. At present the only day I don't see him is well maybe Saturday. Maybe. That will change as I work Friday nights and he takes the girls. I plan to quit Friday nights so I can actually have the girls a whole weekend. When I mentioned that to H he didn't say much then 2 days later ot of the blue he says 'but that will mean I only see the girls every second weekend'
Uh yeah hello welcome to real life. But it won't work that way he has things he has planned to do here.
Anyway I apologise for any errors on my phone it's hard to see and I hope I make sense.