Sorry IB that you are weeks away from a D. OW is a bandaid. If you read statistically about affairs. They don't last forever.
Doesn't mean your h is really in love. He may think this because he is running from the marriage. Hence the confusion. Do you think he really knows what he wants? He doesn't. My h spent almost 4 years in confusion.
Good for you to set some boundaries. Sounds like the conversation went fine and your h has some ah ha moments as in his silence.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"