Irish,

OW is a band aid for the pain.

MLC=Confusion

This is why you get confused too. We all hitch a ride on this

thing and unfortunately you have to outlast it if that is what

you want. Only you can decide if it is worth it to you to keep

standing.

I am weeks away from divorce too.

So... right now... I choose to pop the popcorn and watch.

I have three awesome boys that I am going to be the best dad

I can be for them in a difficult and confusing time.

That is all that is important to me right now.

But I can't just stay there. I have to continue to do what

I feel is best for me and that is to take the high road right

now.

So I totally know what you are going through. Your H is at

a ripe age for an MLC. Double down on the MLC if you know

he had a less than a loving environment childhood.

Even with a divorce looming, I am in no hurry to go anywhere.

But that is me.

Far be it from me to suggest what you are to do.

The crazy stuff they do is to me the confirmation to me that

they are truly messed up.

From what you have posted about your H tells me he is confused.

You do seem to be handling it well and I do follow your threads

a lot.

As far as having a good sense of reality......

I don't know how anybody could with the situation you are in.

That is part of the journey, isn't it? Finding out who you are

in the face of adversity? This thing was not going to let you

just take the back door out to escape it. In fact, you being

here on this board already shows you are not the normal, run from

every problem individual that we have far too many of in our

world right now. I don't want to sugarcoat anything for you

because you will see right through it.

You know you have people here that will help you and believe

me they are the kind of people you want helping. I have

personally met some of them and they truly are filtered out from

the ordinary.

The fact is, you do not know how this will all play out.

Even after a possible divorce, you still don't know how

it will play out.

But you do know how you are going to handle it TODAY.

YOU get to choose how YOU are going to handle it TOMORROW.

This is what is going to define YOU in your heart and mind.

That is what you get to live with every day and night from now

on. I can't imagine what an MLC'r has to think about every day

and night when they are alone with themselves. It is between them

and their mind and if they choose to allow their MAKER to be part

of their thoughts.

It has got to a TOTAL MESS for them. It would be for me.

What's it going to be for YOU?

Sorry I rattled on this long but I just felt like posting it

this way.

WS