Sinclair's 180

[MHL]

Sinclair,

You draw a crowd man.....just like a friend of mine did earlier this year....remember Seedy????

This is the first thing I said to CD and I will say it to you or should I say reaffirm what d-rat said " This is going to take TIME!!!!!!!

LETS ALL HOLD HANDS AND SAY IT TOGETHER......

THIS IS GOING TO TAKE TIME.......GOT IT!!!!

Slow down, amigo, take a siesta!!!

Oh yeah, learn SPANISH like Yesterday dude!!!!

BEST ADVICE YOU HAVE HAD, I think CD said it first.

Damage control on the books....if she saw it and asks.....you could say....."Well you said you wanted to date " and but on your biggest suggestive sh!t eating grin when you say it.

You would not be saying I will have sex with you while you are having sex with other men but you will definitely send the message that you still find her attractive.

Honestly she probably hasn't seen the orders so it does not matter.

You do need to stop trying to do things and then turn around to see if she noticed.

DID I SAY YOU NEED TO LEARN SPANISH......just checking.

I have read all the banter and BS and I agree with dbmod....sorry everyone, call me a conformist.

Now, I am not saying live in an open marriage, but the marriage you HAD is over.....or at least it is for her.

SOOOOOOOOO, stop thinking like a husband and start thinking like a guy that wants to go out with this girl......how does that sound.

Yes, we all want to save our marriages.......

BUT you got to let go of all the self righteous stuff. yeah she cheated, she disrespected you, she broke her vows.....

you go ahead and lay down your boundaries buddy and when she says "no thanks" you will be left with your boundaries oh yeah and your self respect.....try cuddling up with those two things a night. sorry.....just saying it like it is dude.

A couple of days (freaking days ago, that is like a milisecond in DB time) she said she wanted to date!!!!!!!

dbmod is RIGHT.......People would kill for that!!!! and I know a couple of people I would whack for a chance at that. HAHAHAAHA.

I say keep your mouth shut, unless you are going to utter something in spanish, oh BTW DID I SAY YOU THAT YOU NEED TO LEARN SPANISH?????

Look, she is showing interest in you again, it will ebb and flow. Sucks.....too bad.....thats the deal....don't like it....I know where you can go and get great advice for that path.

Want to suck it up and be a MAN, show her something that she can hold on to, go out with her, be nice to her, speak to her in spanish.....get the picture???? I hate to tell you this but you have skipped all the basic classes in DB....you are in the advanced class now.....get hold of your emotions....NOW ......and win her back.

Yes you are competing with the OM and he is losing.....oh and you don't know what they are doing together, it is all in your head.

BTW, learn spanish .

hang in there.

cheers