First your wife has to go on a journey, actually she has already started.....it is a journey of pain and suffering.....believe it or not I have compassion for her.
That is the same mindset that is going to get you through this, she is suffering right now and is seeking to medicate her pain.
The thing that sucks is that her medication of choice causes you and your family pain too.
dbmod is right....the affair with the 51 year old will fall apart and guess what?????
He is in pain too. they are two sick and broken people trying to get the other to help them....they will only prolong their misery........
BUT
there is nothing you can do to stop it or prevent it......the best thing you can do is look away....don't watch it is painful to watch what she is going through.
What can you do????
Focus on you and your kids.....be the best damn father there ever was....they need you right now and need you to be strong for them. Remember to take care of yourself. Eat right, exercise, try to focus at work (that one was hard for me). Come here for support and guidance.
This is the most amazing place....you will find understanding here.
What you don't know is that you are about to start a journey of your own.....if you are willing to look at yourself with brutal honesty and face some of your deepest fears you will come out of this a new person with a new outlook on life.
Oh yeah.....you will be HAPPY too.....I promise you that.
Hang in there, tomorrow is Little Friday, everything is okay on Little Friday!!!! Come back here tomorrow and you will find out just what Little Friday is!!!! You will like it!!
Cheers!
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
