Rookie moves are one reason the board is here. Though it's usually a better plan to post before you shoot yourself in the foot! She isn't going to think it's academic! If you don't think she has already seen it, it might be a good time to change a password, or cancel the order? Just thinking or possible damage control. On the other hand, it isn't going to be a dealbreaker, either, no matter what she says right now.
I do know of cases that I would say were not dissimilar from yours that have resulted in real attempts at reconciliation. (I say that because the one I am really thinking of is a work in progress, and I don't want to jinx it!) But it took a long time. On the scale of a couple of years. It sounds like a long time, but how long did it take to get to where you are?
The point is, while I really understand your desire to change things up, slow and steady is going to give you a lot better chance to succeed.
