Anger was the catalyst that has brought my marriage to the brink. Typically it is more of a male problem but I think having such a disease has an impact and it can happen to women. I would recommend the book “Anger Busting: 101” by Newton Hightower because it is solution oriented like DB and also has a section on how to soften a partner with anger problems. My wife feels that I was always angry at her and that nothing was ever good enough, no matter how hard she tried. She felt I blamed her for everything and the unfortunate part is that I did but not because I wanted to or intended to, she was the easiest target because she was always there. I was mad at the world and myself and took it out on others. Even if you don’t think your W will read the book it might help you understand that anger better.
