Hi P70, and welcome to the community. It seems that your H's interest was sparked when you were GAL. The reason he thought it was "sexy" was b/c you were being mysterous. It seems that when the mystery was out of the picture that he changed......or was it b/c of where you were GAL? What do you think? Did you see an immediate reaction from him or was it after he'd been searching D?
It's a funny thing with human beings, we want what we can't have. If we don't want it and then somebody else decides "they" want it.....then we change our minds...
Kind of seems that way with you, maybe?
It's a good thing that you're feeling better about yourself b/c you will have healthy self-esteem, and that will cause you to project self-confidence (which men think is the sexiest thing about a woman)!
Dbmod is right. You need now to look at deeper issues in the MR. I know for me, it was very difficult to look within myself and admit my failures. It was so much easier to blame my H.
Tell us some more about you and your H, like your age, how long together, kids or not.
Come here every chance you get and reach out to others here. It will help to build up a strong support group. You will find so many great eople here.
Read as much as you can. You'll be surprised how the stories began to sound alike. That's b/c we all have something in common.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
