Beyond Depression..but still a losing battle?

[awest1217]

You didn't do anything and you can't take responsibility for H's actions. You can only take responsibility for what you did. If H is upset about something you did, then he needs to communicate that, otherwise don't worry about it. You feel you did nothing wrong, and I agree that you did nothing wrong, then don't worry about it. You have to be ok letting H be H. You can say things like I can see you are upset, would you like to talk about it?. Beyond that it is not your problem. It is H's and H has to learn to take care of himself and his emotions.

It is so important what you said about discipline. Some parents feel they are hurting their kids by disciplining, but good discipline teaches respect, just like a good boundary for adults.