Working on acceptance and forgiveness

[AntoniaB]

Today I got a check for 1000 from him in the mail along with a note that says "Please buy the kitties something nice for Christmas. Take Care." I cried. I don't think of someone in MLC doing this--I don't know why he is suddenly being so thoughtful and nice. He knows that even if I buy the cats some treats/toys, that's not costing anywhere near this much money. That money is for me/the house. I mean, he always made a big deal about buying me Christmas gifts. Maybe he doesn't know what to do with himself now that we're not together. But this is all so complicated. I can see him definitely reaching here for a friendship and connection but I don't know what to do about it. I reread Michele's book and I don't really see this scenario coming up--the "he wants to be friends/closer but he won't drop the OW because he no longer sees OW as an affair partner but as a legitimate girlfried/relationship/life choice that was destined/supposed to happen for him."

Advice?