I think Sandi's right. This is very typical "rebellion" for a person with a chronic disease. (I have two children with Type 1 diabetes) She really does need a different counselor who is specially trained in dealing with this issue and whoever she's been seeing is NOT. "Cancer really changes a person" Duh! What she needs is someone who can ground her again. Let her know that even though the life she thought she was going to have will be different, it can still be great. It's a grieving process and she's never dealt with it.
See if you can find someone and then go talk to him/her yourself. They can help you figure out how to get your W on board.
