I am going to try and keep this as simple as I can. Ask questions if it will help with feedback. I hope that one day I can help others get through the situation I am in now.
At the beginning of the year my wife started really showing signs of wanting out but my anger issues clouded every word and action that came from me. I was looking into truck driving to change up my career path completely and my wife was very supportive. We had spent time apart before and thought this would be ok too. It was only after I was committed to truck driving that she told me she was unhappy for the past 2 years and had been thinking about leaving me. She said she only stayed around because she knew I wouldn't have gone into trucking if she left and she sacraficed her own happiness again for what was best for me, as she always had.
I still hadn't worked on my anger and didn't understand when she said she wanted an emotional seperation. I tried the old logic, pleading, and such to no avail and it all had an undercurrent of anger and blame. One huge mistake was that when I came home from driving after 2 months of no communication and a physical seperation due to the job, I tried kissing her when she didn't want to and she said she made up her mind at that time. July 3rd is when she finally said she wanted a divorce. I cried like crazy but avoided anger since I had worked on that by this time. I went back to work and while I was on the road the little bit we talked she always brought up divorce. I had backed off some but not enough and got suicidal.
On my next break from work I went therapy for a few weeks and she stayed with family and friends because she didn't want to be in the house with me. It was during this break that I found "The Divorce Remedy" and tried putting it to practice. I thought I was doing well until I had what I thought was a small backslide yesterday.
Today is the worst. I asked to go to the house (since she has been there while I am on the road) and when I got there to visit our pets I find divorce papers on the table and another mans stuff in my house. Come to find out she has been dating for a bit and and this guy is her boyfriend. It looks like she printed the papers off of the computer and I am going to try and see an attorney tomorrow. She erased everything off the computer because she didn't want me to be able to get any photos or videos of us off it and she is packing up the house and always talking about moving. It looks like she has started a new bank account too.
If I have to answer the divorce papers should I contest and request counseling? She won't want to go to counseling but the papers say it can be court ordered. What about the finacial stuff, will it look like I am trying to get back at her?
