A couple days ago I talked to my stbxH for the first time since he left. We talked for 3 hour and mostly business. I did tell him about the kids and how they were really upset about that other person. He seemed to be quiet and listen.
He had been texting me to see if we could come to a settlement. He is tired of paying atty fees - no sh*t. I guess he had a different idea of what divorce was going to be like. He complained the entire time how stressed he was and how he wanted to move on. It hurt like hell but I kept my composure. He doesn't even sound like the guy I know....so angry.
He kept telling me "I hope you see that I'm trying to be fair." My opinion is I thought it was very unfair to cheat and lie and treat your wife like crap. That is NOT being fair if you ask me.
There was no real resolve in the conversation other than he wants me to keep the house. I feel like it's mine anyway. I'm here taking care of the kids and he's out there living a life free of responsibility. I'm so disappointed in him. I miss the man I married and the dad he used to be. Oh well I have my family here and he will live an EMPTY life without his real family - me and the kids. He does not know loyalty. I hope he gets it one day.
On a good note I bought my own car last night. I made a phone call and went to pick it up. I haven't bought a car in 20 years. It's definately a down grade from what I'm used to driving but it's new and it's mine. My ex is going to pick up the car I drive now. He would rather pay the outrageous payment and keep it (he had two cars now) than to help me with half.
My divorce is set to be final next week. I've come a long way since last Nov. but it still feels awful.
Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
