Thanks a lot for your post. It was very helpful. She is free to take all the money. I really do not care about it anymore. I was very tight with it before so that is a 180 for me, also, if I am not going to have a family, I really do not need it. Also if she decides to stay with me, I want it to be an emotional decision, not an economic one (OM is bankrupt). Failing to give her tokens of affection was a problem area in the sense that I gave her things I thought she needed or should want instead of the things she asked for. MC was canceled by the counselor today so we are now doing it on Monday. One problem I have is that I do not know what she wants out of it. Some times she acts as if we are still married but most of the time she acts as if she is living with an enemy that she can not trust but must deal with. She cooks for me, made me a pie for Thanksgiving (out of guilt I think) and wants me to go visit my mother and re-establish my relationships with my side of the family. She says she wants me to be happy and that she worries about what I might do if she leaves but insist that my happiness can not be tied to her staying in a relationship that no longer works for her.
Me 39 W 37 S 5 D 2.75 Married 12 years Together 14 years Bomb Dropped 08/16/10
