Heres the latest we got into a huge fight over our son and i went off on her judging her behavior her relationship with a 22 year old girl who is a major slut. my wife said we can even raise our child and marriage is harder work than raising a child and we cant even do that so how are we supposed to work on a marriage. i just panic when she says negative things about our marriage and i know i have to stop feeding into her negativity. Its so hard cause she will not even give me a glimmer of hope. As a result of that argument she said she saw a lawyer and we could do this civilly for 1500 or fight it out in court for 2500. I never responded to that message but i know we dont have the money to file and i dont want to encourage her to file.
Yesterday i get a call from a girl that says my wife is seeing another man and that her friend was covering for her. Oh course being the stupid person i am i confronted her and she of course denied everything and said if there was someone else it would be cause he is not crazy like me. Then she ask who hates me bad enough to spread lies about and insisted i tell her of course i never did. We started arguing again this morning again about it and she continued to deny it and said she hasn't been happy in 13 years and that i have always been controlling and jealous and dont let her do anything but i could do whatever i wanted. She said she hides stuff from me cause i freak out about everything and even if she just goes to eat i harass her. I ask her what changes i needed to make and she provided a list but said there was two much to change and that she would be crazy to take me back as miserable as i make her. She then said that she will just call her dad and see if he will loan her the money to file and that i was just mad that i couldn't control her and that she takes the kids to school and goes to work and comes home. this friend isn't helping as she drags my wife all over the place at all hours of the night. I know Im digging my own grave cause i attacked the friends character to my wife. She ended the conversation saying Im not taking your back your driving me crazy>
