I agree about the changes in your spouse you don't see - I thought it was just the same day in and day out, but as time went on he did tell me that sometimes he felt that we were doing OK, and I would guess those were the quiet moments without emotional upheavals.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
