Need help with what to try next...

[Long_Way_To_Go]

H and I have been separated for three months—his decision after a summer of acting like a teenager and PA on his part. At first he decided he would try to work on our relationship during the separation and we had been spending time together and talking about relationship (all initiated by him, I did no pursing at all). He said he got to the point where he had decided to recommit himself to our marriage, but then started to feel miserable and trapped with that decision. So he told me he wants a divorce and decided to take a month long trip to Thailand to see new friends he made over the summer (including the OW).

He will be coming home from his trip tomorrow and I’m not sure what to try next. I have a lot of conflicting emotions—part of me wants to see him because I have missed him and part of me is so angry and hurt. I want to do what is best for our marriage. I have been talking to a DB coach and she thinks I should try to keep connected to him through friendship (which has been a solid, important part of our marriage in the past). But I was doing that before, and while small progress was being made, it all came to a screeching halt with his decision of wanting to divorce and visiting the OW.

He called me from Thailand to wish me a happy Thanksgiving and my birthday is this weekend, so I’m guessing he might ask to see me or talk to me. I’m very torn as to how to handle seeing him again.

(Sorry if many details are lacking—it’s a long story and one I don’t completely understand myself.)