I think its over help pls

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My experience is that spouses who have affairs say this kind of thing all of the time.

Feels we could never get over it ( the A) it will always be there...she says.

The more important thing is that she doesn't feel attracted to you at this time. So...?

Quite honestly, if she wanted you, she would be trying to prove she can get past the affair. She's putting that burden on you right now, and I don't think you can talk her out of this 'feeling' (feelings are really things like sadness, remorse, guilt, anger, happiness, and so on).

I'm not going to try to mind read her here, but she isn't saying things clearly, and that's not what people do when they really want to try to save their marriages, so back off and let her choose you.

I have been backed off this mornings type conversation have been few and far between. She asked for space I gave. It seemed to make it worse I think it gave her time to focus on the A. She drifted away during her space time. But now only time will tell I have sought the help I need. I will do GAL and take care of me and my kids while she figures out her. What else can I do?