I do think you did a good job in calmly articulating your boundary concerns with him, and the fact that he was quiet on some things means that probably he's out of attack mode with you and in a more introspective or just detached place. The other thing I really relate to is your comment about not knowing what is right or wrong any more, not knowing about whether there is a way to live "cleanly" in these situations. I'm not going to hijack your thread but the situation I'm in with my H starting to ramp up contact makes me really question what I'm supposed to do too. I think in your case you're going to be up in the air about right and wrong but clearly with the way things have been going for you for the past few weeks with the OW being exposed to your kids pre-divorce, that was kind of the last straw, and you stood up for what you believe to be right and I think what most people would believe is right, and you did it in a calm, non-confrontational way, so hopefully things will change a bit there.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
