So my wife and I have been separated since September. In that time my wife has hired a lawyer for $5,000 which isn’t a small amount for her; which really led me to believe we had reached the end of our road together. I know she has been on a few dates; I’ve been on a few as well; we stopped arguing and really hammered out an agreement on how we were going to live separately. I know I have been feeling awful about the divorce; but I have done a good job in the last few months of not letting her know it. All indications to this point are that she is happy with the separation (aside from the time she is away from our daughter when she is with me). I’ve also lost about 30lbs during the separation; I’ve been dieting and exercising more (not much else to do).
So the last few days I’ve been feeling low; as I said I’ve been on a few dates but in that time I know I’m not over my wife; and that hit home the last few days.
So this morning I wrote a txt to my wife asking how she was doing. She said she was ok but that she hated the winter and told me something about our daughter. She asked how I was. I told her I was great and that I lost over 30lbs, that the winter isn’t so bad and talked about our daughter. She than told me I shouldn’t loss any more weight cause I’ll get too skinny. I said I still have plenty of fat to loss and that I’m not skinny yet; I then slipped and said that I missed her. She replied “You look good, don’t be one of those skinny guys now” and said she missed me too and then asked me over for sushi.
I said I would go to dinner with her and the baby tonight. But I don’t know if I should. I know I have expectations (long term, I plan to just go home tonight no matter what happens), but I don’t know how she feels; I could be setting myself up.
