I had mentioned to H on skype last night that I had missed his contact and he said I had not given him any information about my recovery. He said he had asked D how I was going several times.
(He had D staying with him 2 nights while I was in hospital so he knew that much. I have had 10 surgeries so I am fairly used to the process by now and quite matter of fact)
I then changed tact and asked him how he was and what he was up to. Got fairly limited response. So sensing I was on a 'no win' I said goodnight.
I thought about it over night and re-read the skype script and realised how one sided it all was.....I was asking how he was and enquiring about his stuff and not once was their any enquiry over me, my health or my interests or in fact any sharing from him.
I then considered........other operations he has called and visited with the kids and he has had the same info or less. He asked D so he knew I was able to take calls/texts etc. He knew when I was home. He knew I was on the computer cos he would have seen that we were on skype at the same time. He came here twice and I heard him at the door and he didn't ask if he could come in or ask how I was. He didn't call out. He just spoke to D and left.
I phoned and asked if he had time to talk for a few minutes. He said fine and then I said that I felt hurt that he hadn't called/texted to see how I was. He gave his excuses as before saying I didn't tell him anything about the op and the recovery. I asked why he didn't ask. He replied it was because he didn't think I wanted him to know or I would have told him. I said he had no issue asking me to help with his applications or resumes or my recipe books so he should have been able to ask what the recovery would be like. He said he didn't want to interrupt my sleep/rest with texts/calls but he had asked D several times. I said, like other surgeries I would have welcomed the conversation as hospitals can be lonely, boring places. He said "I'll keep it in mind for next time. Is there anything else? (using the 'I've had enough of this' voice) and hung up.
