I think its over help pls

[blue2010]

You're still making too much of what she is doing, what she is thinking, what she is feeling.

So how about sharing with her one last little tidbit, and then promise to simply let her go.


XXX, I've told you before that I still love you and still think that we can have a great life together as both a couple and a family. I've not changed my mind on that. But I understand you are not happy, that you do not feel happy or complete inside.

You need to do what will make you happy. By my side, we live as partners, we share everything and we would do anything to help one another. But that's only if we continue as a team.

I won't stand in your way. But I also will not help you leave this marriage or this family. And I will never accept another person being a part of our life together.

I hope you find the happiness you are looking for. Go do what you need to do. You know where I will be.



And that's it...

Blessings,

Bill

Would this be best shared with the councillor this week? I wrote a short note to her she didn't seem upset that it reminded her I loved her. However a week ago talk of house expenses was met by you do what you want it will be your bill.

I have told her to go do what she needs to do. I have told her I want her to be happy. I have reminded her I still love her and we want her here.

I am getting out and doing, reconnecting, taking the kids out. That actually seems to make her mad. She is actively pursuing somplace else to live. I am doing counciling and found a group that can be helpful.

I have not told her a gazillion times only a few really. I backed off early on. Maybe I backed off to much. I want to remind her everytime I see her how much I love her but I don't. Should I at least once a day?
Another forums poster said support her, remind her you lover her but doesn't that go onto pursuing? i would be her friend but she will not allow it. She is very defensive. Feels we could never get over it ( the A) it will always be there...she says.

I am taking care of me I am listening to you folks.


Thanks
Disbelief