YOu have a long and difficult road ahead John, I won't lie.
Infidelity can be overcome. Chronic infidelity is like a sore that never heals.
The best thing you can do is to throw yourself in to finding out why you feel the need for others when married, and work to reach a point where this is no longer an issue.
Such things are not fixed in weeks.
Your wife has been rejected in the worst way you can be rejected, and not just once. I sometimes think the worst wound is the one that comes after the first has begun to heal. I sympathisize with your situation, but I sympathize with your wife perhaps the most.
Anything you do right now to explicity try to win her back is going to be counterproductive in my opinion. I'm sure you've told her that, despite your actions, you love her and want to make things right. No need to visit that topic again.
Apologize. Sincerely. Own your mistakes and the pain they have brought to her. Understand how those actions could make a woman want to leave. Let her know you understand.
Work on you. Nothing else. If you must speak, keep it kind, safe, about business, and apologetic.
The rest will take time. And perhaps some intervention from above. All things are possible.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
