I'm SO sorry that H has not stepped up during a time when you are not feeling well. No doubt your post-operative pain, pain medications, and post-operative activity restrictions have compounded your discouragement. It's tough to GAL when you're recovering from surgery.
What did you say to H? .......and what did H say to you?
I understand that it is tough to settle for friendship from someone who was your lover, your best friend, and your H in the true definition of the word...........but when your WAH won't even reciprocate friendship that is freely offered to him, THAT is really tough. It will be interesting to see how H responds.