... I don't think that I'm anywhere close flirting with my H.....it would feel wrong at this stage. All I can do for now is to look hot, be strong and independent, live my life and be happy without him..."Your loss buddy".
I agree that you're not at the point of flirting with H in the way that most think of it, but I DO think that it would be helpful for you to make a point of not acting like a mother with H, whatever that looks like. I'm not saying that you are acting this way.........only you can judge that..........., but the further you can get from that persona, the harder it will be for H to project his feelings about his mother onto you.
Jody's definition of flirting might serve this function (see below):
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
Jody defines flirting as “when someone comes into our energy field and they feel better about themselves for being there….and they look at us and think “She’s so much fun. She’s a hoot! I love being around her”. Jody doesn’t encourage the kind of flirting that makes people wonder “What’s her motive? Where is this going?” It’s just you being really generous with who you are.
Compared to what you described in your post (see below)...........
Originally Posted By: Mila
All I can do for now is to look hot, be strong and independent, live my life and be happy without him..."Your loss buddy".
............I think Jody's description seems less fiercely independent and more approachable. Being a distancer myself, I am trying to become more like what Jody described and less like the fiercely independent woman that I have been for many years. I think that the actions exhibited by both of these types are very similar..........but the attitude that is projected is different.
