I keep finding myself mentioning her "bombs" when she wants to "talk"
First of all it was: "I want a D after kids have grown, Oh and BTW exH has been wooing me and getting me all excited."
Second was: "I am planning to fly to OH and visit OM"
Third was: "we should D and divide the property, but live together for the kids" (that was a good one).
Fourth was: "Even if there was no OM I still don't want to be married to YOU."
Fifth was: "If, you won't live as divorced roommates, I have every right to this house and YOU can move out"
Sixth was: "Look I'm not moving to OH, I am staying here for the kids and job, I just don't want to be married to YOU."
Somewhere in there OM talked her into cancelling the trip (YEA!) but of course it was to keep me from going ballistic.
Question: When next time she wants to "talk" how do I "Act as if" everything's fine when I'm dreading what she's going to say?
Besides STFU somebody give me some pointers.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
