Angel and Disbelief, that is WHY the GAL is so important. To give your brain another activity and quit obsessing over every detail that your H/W is doing or not doing. You will find after some practice that you are actually not even thinking about them for a few minutes. That will creep up into hours.
They have to deal with the loss. You cannot help them! It is important that you understand that. You canNOT fix this for them. Give them and yourself a break. Go do something else. Focus on YOU! They will start to ask you what you are up to.
