I made contact with H because I wasn't going to let him avoid me. I just got to a point where I said, "Enough!" He was predictable. He made excuses. I didn't respond to the excuses. I did feel hurt he couldn't even bother to call me especially when just the week before he'd made contact. However, his excuses were (as I knew they would be) pathetic. As he made them he would have realised how pathetic they were. I was going to challenge him but I just couldn't be bothered.
I'm not going to do anything special for him now. I've opened the door. It's up to him. I may invite him to come here for Christmas. I haven't decided. It will allow me more time with my kids.
My reflection is; either he is really callous and uncaring or as Sanderika says he doesn't want me to think he cares (and he's told me before that he loves me like a friend). Whichever option is not enough. I've given enough to him as a friend and quite frankly I am not going to continue to give in this way. We've reconnected over recent months and I am happy to keep moving along this path but I am not happy for a one sided friendship. I think I am going to tell him this and he can do what he wants with it.
