STBX and co worker purchased a home together

[TimeHeals]

I am very concerned as to the speed of which this has gone down

First, let me say I am truly sorry this has happened to your family.

That being said, it has been 17 months since your wife has said she was "done". You've been legally seperated 6 months.

I am very concerned as to the speed of which this has gone down. I am concerned about the amount of energy my D’s will be getting from their mother after she gives most of it to her new partner and his kids.

Nothing you can do about it. It's not even healthy for you to be holding on like this. What I sense is somebody not letting go and frustrated that they can't make somebody else's choices.

Anger is an issue with me. Just because she had a plan for a very long time with the co worker.

Plan? Define plan. Affair? Perhaps.

If she had of moved out on her own for a while then met a partner.. so be it that is what life is all about.

It's easy to think that sitting where you are sitting right now. If you haven't let go, it's never easy really.

lose a lot of sleep wondering how I will react when I am confronted by this co worker

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Stop that. Start living YOUR life and be the best doggon dad on the planet.

Again the speed at which this has moved makes me feel my D’s are in grave danger.

Again, 17 months is not that fast, and we have no idea when this all really began apparently.

Your daughters in "grave danger"? Give me one valid example of how this is the case? Is the man a pedophile or serial killer?

Or is it that you just aren't letting her go?