Fix me, fix my life, win back my wife

[TimeHeals]

I understand that she doesn't love me, but she used too. I guess I'm hopeful that she doesn't mean, that she's only saying it to hurt me because I've hurt her.

There's a saying around these parts that "love is a choice and not a feeling", and there's some truth to that.

But... she's telling you she doesn't feel love for you. It's not to hurt you most likely based on my sparse reading of your thread. It's how she feels. Don't interpret it, don't try to change it... because it won't work.

Accept what she is telling you when she says how she feels.

bottom line is that I still love this woman.

I get that is how you feel. Do you get how she feels?

The good and bad thing about feelings is that they can change, but fighting with her or trying to force her to change her feelings won't work.