I think its over help pls

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I do not know if it's because of the nc txt. Rt now I think she wants the OM because she cannot have him.

Why can't she have him?

I can understand why she can't have YOU AND him, and why she can't stay there with you AND have him. I wouldn't allow that in my life either, but I sure as heck wouldn't fight her if she was bent on leaving.

If that's how you have presented things, then I think you have stated your boundary in terms of what you are willing to accept, and she now has some thinking to do.

Take the focus off of her, and let her come to you for now.

I think that might be where you are headed anyway, and if so, then you are doing fine.