And I've seen a lot of marriages get into trouble because both spouses didn't have healthy boundaries.
Time makes a good point Sinclair and one I should clarify.
I am not condoning bad behavior. What I am saying is that your boundaries are for you. To protect you.
Not to control someone's behavior or have an expectation that it will do anything but protect you from the bad behavior.
I am also saying that what your W chooses to do despite your boundary should not have a bearing on your self respect.
For instance she can choose to ignore your boundary. Does that mean she doesn't respect you? Maybe. Maybe she feels like she's being controled? Maybe because it's Tuesday.
If anyone here can give you the answer to that then have them give you the winning lottery numbers too.
Don't tie your W's choices to YOUR self respect.
The operative word is healthy. Healthy for you.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
