Infidelity/the LRT (while the affair is going on, or if your partner will not stop seeing the other person and you want to work on saving the marriage)
p. 216
"You need to figure out what is so darn appealing about this OP. Do they have a great sex life whereas yours has been paltry?
You need to find out what need your spouse is fulfilling by spending time with this person so that you can do a better job fulfilling that need yourself. You need to make some changes. Don't tell your spouse that you are going to change or that things will be different, just start acting differently."
Yes, find this out, but *do not* engage with unprotected sex with someone having an affair. That could end your life.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
