My wife came by the house this morning. We talked for over an hour. She appeared to be trying to justify her decision to leave me. Over and over, she keeps reaching back into our past to find events that confirm her decision to leave. I had said something 20 years ago that she's still carrying around with her.
She's testing me, isn't she? I managed to stay calm and confident; I was a good listener; I gave her my undivided attention; I addressed her concerns with understanding; I acknowledged my own shortcomings and confirmed my commitment to working on our relationship. In essence, I've been following the DB guild-lines (I hope). It wasn't all bad: she managed to admit that I do have some very good qualities as well.
I told her to take her time. In truth, there isn't much more that can be said. She needs to notice the changes in me and that will take time. My instincts are to lay low and work on myself. I have several appointments with Spanish tutors today and I found a class in Salsa dancing that I was considering for this evening (something I was planning before all the R talk). Does anybody think it's inappropriate?
