Mandyloo thanks for visiting..I think we have all read your situation and watched your xh twists and turns maybe the end picture is not totally clear and as upside said some take longer I guess there is no way to put all the mlcer and their experiences in a basketalthough many seem to share certain negative characterisatics maybe close to addiction characteristics Upside Thank you ..I just read your thread and it continues to seem hopeful for you and I too hope oneday soon xh will attempt to reconect with our kids we remain positive hopeful and very detached I encourage my kids at every opportunity to let go of Dad to pray for his well being and to look to God as true father now-- I continue my journey with BF who has proven to be a strong ,positive trutsworthy man to this point.. but my reliance is not on him but on a higher source and myself just enjoying a nice freindship I do not want anything more than that at present and BF is willing to allow relationship to be--not sure I will ever waNt M again I practice wishing x and ow wife the best sometimes Im not sure if it still affects me on the inside with hurt, but I outwardly practice sending them well wishes and I feel I mostly mean it... so that is hopeful b/c I do not want to harbor anger..that will affect me I want to be free--so I set them free peace
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