Ok, so maybe not the best way to handle the day. We all have bad days and sometimes take steps in the wrong direction. Acknowledge it, learn from it, and move on. No sense dwelling on what went wrong; just work on doing better.
My H hates holidays. Let's not get into all the whys; you'd be here all night.
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My reason is this. He was the one who seemed to always have a problem with it. I and the kids were always happy and excited to put the tree up. My husband was the one who just for whatever reason would not participate and had a negative and critical attitude about it.
My H to a "T". And once I began DBing I decided this:
I enjoy holidays BUT my husband won't participate. I want him to so I used to try forcing him to. Then he was unhappy and I was unhappy. So, instead I decided to ignore him and his bad attitude. My kids and I enjoy holidays. If he wants to sulk then that's his problem and his loss.
I went to see family for Easter with my sons and left him home. I didn't discuss Halloween with him and get this, on Halloween he asked me in the morning if we were going to carve pumpkins. He didn't want to be left out! He grumbled all the week before that he wasn't taking the kids around and he wasn't going to hand out candy. So guess who was dressed like a pirate and calling trick-or-treaters scurvy dogs?
Christmas is a big deal to me. I'm not going to ask him to do a single thing. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. The point is, I refuse to allow my joy at the holidays to be determined by his attitude.
Enjoy your kids and your holiday. If he wants to be a grump, try to wear some mental blinders. Remember, your happiness is not up to him. It's up to you!
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
