Beginning of the End, or of the Beginning

[Mike.4545]

I would say you should ignore the "mourning" and not tell her you think it's ok. That kind of sympathy/acceptance may lead to a relapse. Accept that this is part of the process, but it's her process, not yours. Don't offer to help with that; just keep doing what you do.

I think that's a good point undefeated...and I'll make sure to keep that in mind. As bad as it hurts to know she would have to mourn an end to a relationship with another man, I realize that's just how it is...and I agree that it's something she'd need to work through on her own if she's going to learn and grow from this whole experience.

I'm feeling pretty confident about the direction I'm looking to take this for myself. At this point, I just don't think I could maintain any respect or love for my wife if I don't draw a hard line with her and protect myself from any more of these betrayals.

Either she agree's no-contact with OM and full transparency,

Or

I'm completely dark and off the map of her life...doing my own thing.

=O)