Help: Trying 180 with wife that won't see me!

[undefeated]

I think you're viewing this in the wrong light. Obviously this guy is an awesome friend and his W sounds nice. I just think you must be wrong about:

I am afraid she now thinks I left because she came home.

This is a man who knows what you are going through and has probably shared that with his W. If it's really bugging you just tell him what happened.

It is excruciating to be around people in love when you are in pain. I try not to become a recluse (not good DBing and not good for me) and I also don't like to avoid people just because they aren't as miserable as I am. I suggest:

1. Hang around people who are happy and let their joy be contagious.
2. Smile when you don't want to.
3. If you get bummed around them again, excuse yourself to the bathroom and then give yourself a pep talk.
4. If none of the above works, just be honest. These are friends, and I'd bet money they'll understand.

Focus on the good things from the day!

You had a good time with your buddy.
You showed him you appreciate what he is doing for you.
You stepped outside of what is going on with you and did something for someone else.

Those are good things! Pat yourself on the back!