I heard an interview with J. Love Hewitt about a year ago. I don't find her a role model for good relationships but she said something I liked: "Most guys will tell you fairly soon in dating whom they really are; we need to listen to them." For example the guys who text too forward, too soon--they are telling us what they want. Guys who really wish they could get together more, but there is always that project at work...they are telling us, too! Sometimes I know it is easy to look at the positives and ignore the negatives and then actually seem suprised when they turn out to be who they really were all along!
