She'll have to use all her energy just to mourn the loss of that relationship and she'll have to get through that before she'll be in a place to look back at our marriage.
I, however, get it. I was originally told when I first came here that an A is not an R. Period. I tend to disagree, but hey, it's just my opinion.
I would say you should ignore the "mourning" and not tell her you think it's ok. That kind of sympathy/acceptance may lead to a relapse. Accept that this is part of the process, but it's her process, not yours. Don't offer to help with that; just keep doing what you do.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
