Working on acceptance and forgiveness

[AntoniaB]

I should add, I don't want to mischaracterize my H--he is one who always has done "the right thing", just when he chose to have an affair and pursue it, he didn't do the right thing by me, but I guess in every other pursuit he still tends to do the right thing and maybe it's not guilt over me so much as just trying to do right by his cats that he's offering the money.