It has been 18 months since the bomb and 6 months since my divorce was final. I JUST started dating after I found myself again, and adjusted to being totally on my own again.
I dated a guy for about a month and things were going pretty well. I told him I didn't want a "hook up" and wanted a friendship first. Well, the emails and texts slowly took on a "sexual" tone that I wasn't comfortable with and told him so. He would back away for a bit, but soon resume with the inuendos. this past weekend I asked him to come to a party to meet my friends and he refused. He said he wanted a *nice quiet night in.* Yeah, right. That was because I wouldn't sleep with him. Talk about passive aggressive!!! So, yesterday I told him I didn't want to see him anymore. As Dr. Laura says....I want a guy who will swim through shark-infested waters to bring me a glass of lemonade!!
I feel sad, but empowered. Stand up for yourself and remember YOU dictate how you are treated. I'm going to enjoy the holidays as a single girl and think about dating in early 2011.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
