don't be sorry for your post... it is good to work things out outloud sometimes (so to speak)
I beg to differ with you about finding a great guy who will take on a fatherly role
I found one and I have two boys ages 13 and 12
My wonderful amazing guy new that we came as a package deal from the get go. I would never be with someone who would not accept my children...their dad is out of the picture and I was very up front with that. My expectation was that if he were to be involved with me, that would be getting involved in parenting them as well...he is a role model...
we went through lots of therapy (still do) to blend our respective families
but
that is what we are a family
I didn't want to be a f*ck buddy...and I wasn't willing to accept anything less than an eventual all-in
obvioulsy it didn't happen on our 1st date...we slowly worked our way into blending our respective families
it has been wonderful
I wonder why you would want to be with someone who clearly wants something different than you do?
