online dating tips #3

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No I havent been scarred off.

I am just trying to digest all these posts and I was actually busy with her and her Son this weekend. Today is monday so I am playing catch up.

I now have a new issue to deal with regarding my GF but I wont bore you with the details. She seems to crave drama sometimes.

I think I just need to sit her down and ask her again what she expects from me and us in the future.

For the life of me though I do not understand why a modern single Mom can't have a loving relationship with a Man withought resorting to marriage and adapting somebody else's child.

I do not feel like I am using her but I will try to instill in her the fact that there may be a better man out there for her that actually wants to raise her 12 year old boy. Who knows, she may get lucky. And no, I am not trying to be sarcastic but I doubt she will find a man like that at our age.

I dont NEED love, sex and affection but I do crave it. What normal human being doesn't?

I think I do love her but you may be right. I may be confusing that emotion with something else. I will need to do some soul searching. But she tells me ILY at least several times a day. I have to wonder now.

It seems like weh both fell into the roll of husband and wife in a way and this happened quickly and easily. It felt almost natural. We joke about being married without the marriage.

Seems we both are guilty of being needy. As she said, she was so glad to finally find a good guy. And I just ate up the idea of having somebody who cared about me. Codependancy trap I guess.

Now what? Im not sure. If we continue to date then I guess our relationship will eventually end up taking it's natural path. We both used to joke about the fact that we did not know if we would be together a few years down the road. That is telling by itself.

Ironically I have always been pro-marriage and I loved being married. But now the thought of buying a ring scares the daylights out of me. Too old to make a mistake again unless Im 100% sure. And Im not. And yes that is not fair to her. I need some time to think.

Sorry for the long post.