And it seems like it's always this time of year that the sh*t hits the fan. I've been M 6 1/2 years and had one good holiday season. I don't want to do this again! I'm so hurt and so shocked right now.
Please explain. You each have had one A, yes? What do you mean by that statement?
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Back to Dbing full time. Focus on me, spend time with my kids, don't play games, don't get emotional with him. I'm so sad, but by the end of the night I will have probably moved on to pissed.
But that is exactly what you have planned for tonight.
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I'm going home to tell him I'm upset (though not what about; if he's not stupid he'll figure it out) but that I'm not ready to talk about it now. I am also telling him I want him to stay somewhere else tonight. If he won't I'm not ready to force the issue but I have arranged to go stay with my friend.
IMO, these actions are not DBing. He will think you are playing games! Men are not stupid,but they certainly think differently than we do! Never.....ever, think a man will figure it out! Dbing says to ask for what you want.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
