I would think that once you have self esteem would be the time to date...if you are unsure of what you want to do or who you are in a relationship then maybe you aren't ready.
When I 1st started dating (2 years after my divorce was final) I dated someone from the boards and holy flack I got. I got even more flack when I dated someone else at the same time. I wasn't ready to be in a serious committed relationship. I loved being on my own, making my own decisions.
Ultimately, I broke it off with one of the guys because he continually wanted more than I was willing to give...and what a wonderful thing that was to do for my self esteem....trusting myself enough to break it off with a really nice guy who gave me everything I wanted but was NOT the right guy for me.
The other guy was the right guy he let me make my own decisions embraced who I was
I never had to question should I email or shouldn't I, why isn't he calling, what will he think if I do this....
I was just who I was who I am
I spent a long time figuring out who I was since I had lost myself in all my previous relationships
my therapist said...be true to who you are 1stly. If you aren't nothing good will come of it
I didn't need to "figure" out the guy I am with because he just told me what he wanted or needed.
If they can't tell you what they want and need, then they aren't ready to date either
dating isn't a game
if you are good with who you are and confident in the person you have become, you will be willing to learn from someone else and take suggestions or discard them based on who YOU are.
You are looking for someone to compliment who you are (which they need to know WHO you are before they can) not complete you
