Enjoy the good day - it will help you also. It may become a cycle, she is upbeat, you feel better, she will become comfortable and might not want to rock the boat, you buy more time to do DB. Emotional upheavals can be so tiring. I live with H, and after started DBing I felt so calm when we would go for two week stretches without upheavals, no R talks, no D or S talks, and felt that those were times that progress was made. he also said that at times he felt that we were OK, and I think he refers to those times as well. Thing is, after 2 wks or so, i would start feeling restless and do something stupid, and it would set us back. What you feel isn't paranoia, its the need to know what is the real deal, but remember that she herself also does not know it! Anger I think always lurks beneath the surface in all of us betrayed spouses, and rises up to the surface when we feel disrespected and rejected. That is the demon we have to control.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
