MLC or just an EA?

[angel61]

DB mod,

I was thinking of what you said was attractive to him and what I know about OW, and here it is:
1. She is a happy person - does not criticize other people, very sweet and a bit on the mushy side, depended on H a lot, saw him as somebody who guides and helps.
2. She is free - just escaped a bad marriage through divorce, and thus has no responsibilities or obligations
3. She dresses well - designer clothes, etc. She is young, not so pretty, but is slim and trim and healthy
4. She works hard even if she does not need it, quite a workaholic, is very enthusiastic about life.

Myself:
1. I used to be overweight, but justlost 35 lbs. and now am looking good. I cannot compete with OW bodywise as I am older (31 vs. 49), of a different race, but everyone says I do not look my age, and also I consider myself a good dresser, many of those who know OW actually think I am prettier.
2. I work hard and am pretty much accomplished myself but the event set me back in my work output, to the point that my manager noticed it, and I am doing damage control at this point.
3. I am critical of my H, defensive, used to be dominant, and these are what I am working on now, as this is the biggest difference I would say between OW and me. Its not too hard because I am actually a happy, optimistic person as well, just got negative due to circumstances.

I realize now that wooing him back would really take time as words alone cannot heal the rift between us, but I am hopeful. My patience though needs working on, as I just want to feel loved and needed again.